Tips for Creating a No Conflict Seating Chart

Wedding Planning Seating ChartAre you excited for your wedding except for one pesky problem, the seating chart? You’re not alone. Unfortunately most modern brides find they are inviting at least a handful of people that just don’t get along. It can be stressful when you have guests that want to wish you well on your big day, but may not have love to share with some of your other invitees. Creating your seating chart doesn’t have to feel like torture, though. A little strategy goes a long way when it comes to planning your wedding, but especially when it comes to creating a table plan that will work for everyone, even your most adversarial of guests.You Can Do This
First things first, sit down with your fiancé, and/or a close friend, a copy of your guest list, a map of your tables, and take one deep breath. Rest assured, that even if everyone doesn’t get along, normally, it is possible to create a peaceful environment on your wedding day. You just need a foolproof strategy.
Start with your most important guests, such as close family, your bridal party and your dearest friends. If any of these people are at odds, make sure to space them out as much as possible. For instance:
• If your maid-of-honor hates the “best man,” but you want them both seated at your bridal party table, have them seated at different ends of the table.
• No one says you have to sit in the same order as you entered the ceremony! It’s better to keep the peace than to adhere to formalities when it comes to your seating plan.
• If your parents are divorced, try to seat each parent equally close to your table, but separate from one another (unless of course they remain close friends).
• Try to seat the groom’s family as close to your table as your parents, too. This can help keep things fair, and make sure no one feels you’re showing favoritism.
• If you know some guests have very different – or very strong – feelings against alcohol/loud music/carbohydrates than others, try to keep them at a different table than those that are likely to drink/sing along/have a second piece of cake.
• Placing like-minded people at the same table can help make your guests feel much more comfortable than if you try to combine not only your worlds, but also opposing worldviews.
This can be a helpful principle for families attending with young children, as well. If you don’t plan to have a designated kids’ table, consider placing the families with kids at one or two tables. That way the children can entertain each other, and the parents have easy conversational fodder (their crazy kids)!