Want your “I do’s” to feel a bit more personal than the usual lines, “for better or worse?” It is possible to write vows that are meaningful and unique. And perhaps best of all, you don’t have to be a poet to pull it off, either. You just need to tap into your emotions, possibly your memories, and then write from the heart. Of course, that’s not to say that vows have to be sappy or overtly sweet. In fact, they probably shouldn’t be if that’s not you and your groom’s style. Instead, focus on keeping your vows simple and straightforward, because those will ring true and remain timeless, long after your wedding.
Take a Cue from the Masters
Whether it’s the traditional wedding vows or a popular wedding poem or verse, instead of starting from scratch, let classic wedding lines serve as inspiration. This can help keep you on track for creating vows that are short and succinct. It can also help make sure you’re saying all that you need to say.
Keep It Short, Simple
No one wants their wedding ceremony to drag on, boring guests and making them anxious for the reception to start. Keep this is mind when writing your vows, and avoid drafting a small novel.
And if you do write lengthy vows, consider saving it as a letter to give your spouse later. Just edit your draft down for the wedding day. Be succinct and simple!
Talk to Your Officiant
Some ministers and other officiants have guidelines about what should – and should not – be said during the ceremony. It’s best to ask if he or she has requirements in advance of the wedding, and definitely don’t disrespect him or her by going “rogue” the day of your ceremony. The officiant might even have some great tips, to share about crafting your own vows. After all, who has been to or performed more weddings?
If you want the vows to remain a surprise for your betrothed, you don’t have to spoil them by reading them to one another at the rehearsal. Just make sure you do practice them before the ceremony, preferably in front of someone, and have the officiant guide you about how and when to exchange the official “I do’s.”