For many couples, one of the most difficult parts of wedding planning is simply determining who should be invited. With a guest list too big, a wedding can start to feel impersonal, too small, and you might feel as though important people are missing from the most important day of your life. If you and your fiancé are feeling stumped as to who should make the cut, when it comes time to drafting your guest list, here are some helpful tips to creating that ever-important list.
How Big Will Your Dream Party Be?
One of the best things you can do, when you begin planning your wedding, is determine approximately how big you envision your celebration. If your dream wedding is a small and intimate gathering, you could consider a destination wedding, or look into small wedding chapels in your area.
If you picture 200 or more of your closest friends there, to share in your joy, you will need to explore much bigger wedding venues, and you might want to rule out extensive travel,* which would make it difficult to arrange for all your guests to make it.
Focus On Who You Want to Invite, Rather Than Obligation
If you begin drafting your list, based on perceived or real obligatory invites, you may get discouraged quickly. Instead, start with the easy invites, in other words the people you cannot imagine getting married without. Then, work from there into the less-close relatives and others you may be expected to invite. Extend invitations only as you see fit, and only as you can afford to do so. Keep in mind, catering, bar, cake and other variable costs will all go up the more people you invite.
If you have chosen a small venue, don’t be afraid to narrow the guest list accordingly, to make your dream space work. Likewise, if your heart is set on a destination wedding* even though you know the long list of guests you have considered won’t be able to attend, consider going ahead with planning your dream destination wedding, and then hosting a party or reception in your hometown, to celebrate with everyone else afterwards.