Sure, wedding traditions have their place. Even when planning a thoroughly modern wedding, it can be nice to give nods to weddings past by following time-honored traditions, or even incorporating elements from your family’s historical weddings. That said, we think there are some traditions it is more than okay to break. In fact, it can actually be a lot of fun, and in some cases extra meaningful to shirk tradition in favor of what works best for you and your fiancé. So when it comes to planning your wedding, remember, some rules were made to be broken!
Your Wedding Party Doesn’t Have to Be Boys Versus Girls
There really are no rules when it comes to planning your wedding parties, anymore. That means if you’re close with your brother, he can stand on your side of the aisle instead of your groom’s. It also means your bridal party, whoever is in it, doesn’t have to wear traditional gowns, or even matching attire at all.
And whether you decide to have a huge wedding party or a tiny one, just make sure you plan according to the space of your venue. If you’re hosting an outdoor celebration, for instance, there is no reason not to have a larger-than-life bridal party! Working within the confines of a tiny church? Why not have two or three close friends or relatives serve as your bridesmaids, and invite your other close friends to serve as attendants, cake cutters, or in other special roles.
You Don’t Have to Let Them Eat Cake
If you’re not a fan of wedding cake, or the tradition of cutting a slice and feeding it to your groom, skip it! Although, we highly recommend serving dessert of some kind, it doesn’t have to be cake. Pies, cake pops, doughnuts, fruit… the sky is the limit when it comes to satisfying sweet tooths.
Other wedding reception traditions you should feel free to shirk, if so inclined:
- The bouquet and garter toss! Some couples love these traditions, others ditch them in favor of more time dancing.
- Are you incredibly close to your mom? Have a dance with her at your reception, in addition to or instead of a dance with your dad.
- Arranged seats can simplify a wedding reception, or cause a lot of stress for already busy brides. Nothing says you have to assign seats. Don’t be afraid to create an open space plan, where guests can choose tables as they see fit.